Once my friend broke up with his girlfriend. I asked him, “why are you doing this”. He replied, “I do everything she asks me to do, but whenever I ask her for a BJ then she rejects my proposal instantly. So, what you think? What should I do?”.

At that time I was a little surprised thinking that it’s really happening to my own friend. But yes! It’s true. Not always but it can affect your relationship. Not giving any blowjob to your partner or asking for it too many times can affect your relationship in a negative way. I am not saying that it is a compulsory case but it has some possibilities.

So, now we have two cases from both the boy side and the girl side which can create a relationship conflict. I will cover both one by one and talk about its solutions.

  1. The first case is when you are a boy. You want blowjob badly but your girlfriend or wife is refusing to do so.
  2. The Second Case is when you are a girl and hates blowjob or do not want to go down to your partner.

If there is any third case then please let me know in the comment.


Case 1: You are a boy and want blowjob but getting refused

boy got refused

I can feel this situation because I am a boy. But don’t think that I am a five years old boy. I just prefer saying a boy than a man 🙂 It makes me feel energetic. So, I was on the point that if you are a boy and you love blowjob. But your lovely partner refuses to do so. Then in this situation, you feel a little sad or sometimes angry. And there is nothing wrong with that. It’s totally natural. But there is one thing that a relationship runs with two hands. One is yours and the other is your cutie’s hand.

I know that these small things increases the internal sexual frustration. But if you get mad for this and start forcing her to do so then this can ruin your relationship. And I do not want that. So, you have to handle it very carefully. The main case is she doesn’t like blowjobs. And you just have to know, why? If we just get that point then we will easily solve this issue. So, I am going to break down it in simple two steps so she gets ready for what you want.

Step 1: Try to know why she hates blowjobs

It is a universal rule that “If you want to cut down any tree then go for its roots”. And here we have to do the same. First, we have to identify why she hates blowjob. It is the root of the problem and then we will cut it down.

There are many reasons why a girl doesn’t like blowjobs. Some of them are true, some are misconceptions and some of them are just fear due to her upbringing. Below are some of the reasons which can be one of her causes, why she hates blowjob.

It takes so much effort

requires effort
She has to work for this.

Blowjob requires some work to be done. It is like an exercise for girls. Exercise of the whole mouth. A long blowjob can lead to some pain in your mouth because it requires effort. And whenever you do some physical work then it can produce some comfortless situation.

She thinks it hurts

Blowjob is about taking someone’s genital in her mouth. So, she thinks if you get excited and start to push it down then this will hurt her. And she is quite true here. If you are polite to her then there is no problem. But if you start doing it vigorously then it can make her gag reflex and choke.

She thinks it disrespects her

Ah! This is the most common reason among girls. They think going down to a man is a disrespectful thing. She thinks if she gives you a blowjob then this will hurt her self respect. If she goes down to you then you will start feeling more powerful because she is working down to you and you are dominating her.

Yes, Blowjob is an act of submission and domination but it does not disrespect any women. Many women love to be submissive. This is something which you both can enjoy. Many women enjoy giving blowjob. So tell her that this can also make her feel good. Let her know that you respect her and this is just an act of pleasure.

It is considered as a sin in her religion

Yes, It is true that many religion tells that a blowjob is a bad thing. They show it as a sin. So, If your women belives in any religion then this can be possible that she thinks it as a bad thing. In this case, you should talk to her politely then tell her your feeling, your requirements and what you want.

She is very shy

Shy girl

Shyness is another aspect of this situation. Many times girls say that they don’t like it because they are shy to do so. They are shy about this so they think it’s better to say no. This shyness indicates that you guys are not close enough. If she is shy to you then it means something is missing from your regular conversation. I will suggest that when you talk to her, try to make it a little flirty and dirty. This will help her to be frank with you and maybe you can get the wages of your labor.

She thinks it’s dirty down there

Everyone knows that the hygiene is very important. And here this plays a very important role. If she is conscious about hygiene then it may be possible that she gets a little disappointed thinking about the blowjob. She thinks your down pubic part is dirty.

So, in this situation keep yourself clean. Take shower daily, clean your genitals, and use some centage soaps while bathing. Tell her that you take care of your small brother regularly.

She doesn’t know how to do it

I will say this is the most common reason among all of those girls. You can have the choice to like or dislike something only when you know what is it. The same case applied here. When a girl says, she does not want to perform blowjob then most of the time she doesn’t know how to do it. She doesn’t know what she has to do when your thing comes out. She has to only suck it or rub it or have to do something more. She is totally confused about this.

So, In this case, you should talk to her about this. Tell her that what she has to do. Give her the confidence that she can do it. Train her on how she can perform this. If you don’t have time for these or you don’t know anything about this then gift her a trainer. A trainer who can teach her what she has to do.

I will suggest Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. This guy is a master of blowjobs with the experience of hundreds of girls. So I think it’s a good deal 🙂 to invest some of your burgers in exchange for daily awesome blowjobs from her.

Step 2: Start talking to her about this

Now its time for the solution. The general solution for this is the conversation. Yes! You heard it right, bro. The conversation is the key to all the above problems. If she has any doubts then it is your duty to clear them. If she does not have any proper knowledge of blowjob then it is your duty to teach her. If you want her to work down then firstly you have to work on her.


Case 2: You are a girl and don’t want to give blowjob

Girl don't like this

Hey, beauty! You do not want to go down to him. So, here we have two possibilities. First, you really do not like blowjobs. This can be due to many reasons as per your thought. Or, you do not know how to do this and thus you are saying no to him.

If the first case, If you really do not want to do it. Then the direct solution for this is your partner. Go and talk to him. Tell him, what you think about the blowjob. Express your feelings to him. He is your boyfriend/ husband, and it’s your right to tell him what your deep heart want. If you explain to him properly then he will surely understand you. Also, try to listen to him too. Because it may be possible that he also wants to say you something.

Or, The second reason that you don’t know how to give blowjob. And so you are saying no to him. You don’t want to spoil your first blowjob or I say your relationship due to this. You think what if it would be bad and he doesn’t feel good enough. Then he will get away from you. But let me tell you that if you don’t give him a blowjob and if he loves it then this can too spoil your relationship.

Don’t take it as an optional. Just think it is a body requirement. If you do not fulfill it then he will start looking for someone else. Men are very different from women. We men do not have any control over our minds and body. We want what we want. So, it is much better that you fulfill his needs yourself instead of some other wild cat.

The problem is you don’t know, how? Then learn it. It is just a skill and no one born with it. Everyone learns it on this earth. Go to your boyfriend and tell him to teach you. If you can’t tell him this then go for any tutor. Someone who knows it really well so that he can make you a blowjob queen. I will suggest Jack’s Blowjob Lessons. He got really some experience balls. Go and learn the art of blowjob and surprise your boyfriend with it 😉 .

Sam Kryplone

Hey! This is Sam. The Co-owner of Learnblowjob.com. I love to write about relationship stuff. But I want to confess one thing that I am not any so-called relationship expert. I write everything on the basis of my internet research and my real-life experience or the experience with my past relationships. So, read and have fun.

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